Yes, I just called your man trash. I know, you can tell me how that's not right and I shouldn't have said that later on but I have to address the subject of "Potential". Every single person on Earth has potential. Lets see how Merriam's Dictionary defines Potential;
po·ten·tial (p -t n sh l). adj. 1. Capable of being but not yet in existence; latent: a potential problem. 2. Having possibility, capability, or power.
There you have it. Being with someone who hasn't realized ALL of their potential is one thing, being with someone who hasn't realized ANY of their potential yields exactly what the definition says, a potential problem. I don't know about you, but I surely don't need any problems especially ones that haven't come into being yet. I like to avoid problems altogether if possible. So, I can't be in a relationship with anyone who won't work regularly, doesn't contribute to anything and barely takes care of themselves. That's not what makes them trash though. What makes them trash is when they are all of the above AND an Ike Turner understudy, a convicted Felon and addicted to marijuana. I'm sure you know someone who has dealt with a man like that or maybe that's your man. I don't know but those are problems that I'm sure you don't want to deal with now or in the future.
I'm not saying that these people don't have redeeming qualities and that they will never be anything but if they aren't taking active steps towards something then you don't want to spend a lot of time with these folks, they have stuff to figure out. Any man who wants a great woman is going to have something to bring to the table, regardless of their past. Real men don't make excuses. They do what they have to do. They think about you and not themselves.
Now every man has the potential to be something great. However, life shapes and molds a lot of young men into people that can't comprehend manhood. They didn't have any role models. In that case, women can not teach them how to be men. They have to figure it out for themselves. Some never try to figure it out. They just continue to be triflin'. Then try to make you feel like you had something to do with it. Leave these people alone! Just don't put up with it. You simply say, "Look, I like you and everything but you just aren't on the road to where I'm going so, it's been real."
Either the man will go back to hang out with the rest of the garbage or he'll be intrigued and want to know where your going on this road. Either way you have to keep moving forward. Keep learning about yourself. Its the best way to happiness.
Take a look at YOUR potential. What do YOU have to offer? When you figure that out, bring it into being. Then you'll be ready for that man that doesn't want to drag you into the garbage with him. He will want you to explore new places and things and hold you in the highest regard. That's what we are all really after. Well, you have to hold yourself in high regard first so a man can recognize what he has to do to get and keep you. More than just 'potentially' be a good man.
That being said, even garbage can sometimes be recycled and given new life or made useful again. I challenge my ladies out there who question their relationship or see trouble ahead to take a step back and allow your man to choose; New Life or Landfill with all the other garbage? Either way, its a decision THEY have to make on their own. If they make the right one, hopefully you will be happier, if not, get the trash off your shoe and keep walking!
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
I'm TOO picky.....You're not picky ENOUGH
When it comes to relationships, I feel like I have to break it down a little further for some of you that are trying your hardest to be with someone. I'm the best person to do this because a big part of my personal and professional career revolves around knowing and studying human patterns and behavior. Yes, I can get scientific but I won't because that would be lost on some so I will try to keep it simple.
There are a lot of dating questions floating through the atmosphere and yes, it is a lot to take in because choosing a mate is serious business. Even choosing who to date is serious business and can make you really frustrated. So here are some tips to help you along.
1. Beauty
Those of you who are really worried about height, weight and attractiveness really need to put that in perspective. If you are looking for a man, you want to know who he is and what his goals are. Don't care that he's not your preferred height, care about whether he is on his way somewhere or too busy trying to look good. I'm not saying be with someone who isn't attractive to you but beware that you aren't looking over a decent person because he doesn't meet your height requirement. Funny, you have a height requirement and no job requirement. Fix it.
2. Age
The age question has come up several times in the last few weeks. How old is too old? How young is too young? These questions can be answered in several different ways. Personally, I don't think age is a factor until you start to compare what you want with what you have. For instance, dating a younger man has its benefits just as dating an older man has benefits but it depends on what you are looking for at the time. You have to understand the stages of human development to make this work for you and have fun doing it. For example, if I choose to date a man that's 19 then I can expect that I'm going to be paying for stuff and competing with things that a 19 year old wants to do. You might say well then what's the benefit? Well, ask yourself what else can you get from a 19 year old? Think on it....
3. Kids
For those that have kids, I feel for you. All I can say is that your kids should come first and if you are with someone or dating someone who isn't being a father and role model to their own kids don't count on them being that for yours. That's a battle that I wouldn't advise engaging in. It can get ugly and your kids caught in the middle. Be cautious.
4. Geography
Look past your immediate location. Venture out. Read my post "Girl, go somewhere" for tips on this. Your man might not live on your block or in your neighborhood or even in your state. If you're having trouble dating or finding the right kind of guy for you, widen your net. I've recently come to the realization that maybe my man's name is Jean-Claude or Alejandro...who knows...but I haven't been to Mexico or Europe in recent years but I'm open to the possibilities. Time will tell. It's on my to do list.
Those are just a few things to be mindful of as you enter or re-enter the dating scene. There are tons of other things to be, do and say but I won't go into it here. You need to digest what's been said already and see how your current method of attracting and meeting eligible men measures up. I'm sure there is at least one of these items that needs to be revisited in your life and adjustments made.
Now, I really don't consider myself to be 'too picky' but I will say that there are people that I just don't have time for and that I am reasonably sure will add nothing to my life, therefore I don't bother trying to date them. After the age of 30 you just know what's going to work and what isn't.
If you haven't figured out who YOU are already, then you don't need to be dating anyone if you are currently single. I hope that doesn't sound harsh but some of the relationships I learn about make me cringe. If you are in an unhappy relationship then this might be part of the problem. You may be suffering because you have yet to learn what real happiness feels like. If you don't know that, then how can you recognize it from your partner? Food for thought.
So, I'm encouraging you to be picky but realistic. Find the person who is right for you. It's work though. If you're lazy about it, you will surely not find what you're looking for. Its amazing to me how long us women can take to buy the right outfit, right car, etc but take the first man that comes along and smiles at us.....Girl, Stop it!! That's what makes me tired of you!
It's ok to NOT give someone your phone number just because they asked. It's ok to say no is all I'm saying. Work on you so that when you are ready to jump out there and find 'THE ONE' you will save yourself a lot of wasted time, disappointment and frustration. You might even have fun.
There are a lot of dating questions floating through the atmosphere and yes, it is a lot to take in because choosing a mate is serious business. Even choosing who to date is serious business and can make you really frustrated. So here are some tips to help you along.
1. Beauty
Those of you who are really worried about height, weight and attractiveness really need to put that in perspective. If you are looking for a man, you want to know who he is and what his goals are. Don't care that he's not your preferred height, care about whether he is on his way somewhere or too busy trying to look good. I'm not saying be with someone who isn't attractive to you but beware that you aren't looking over a decent person because he doesn't meet your height requirement. Funny, you have a height requirement and no job requirement. Fix it.
2. Age
The age question has come up several times in the last few weeks. How old is too old? How young is too young? These questions can be answered in several different ways. Personally, I don't think age is a factor until you start to compare what you want with what you have. For instance, dating a younger man has its benefits just as dating an older man has benefits but it depends on what you are looking for at the time. You have to understand the stages of human development to make this work for you and have fun doing it. For example, if I choose to date a man that's 19 then I can expect that I'm going to be paying for stuff and competing with things that a 19 year old wants to do. You might say well then what's the benefit? Well, ask yourself what else can you get from a 19 year old? Think on it....
3. Kids
For those that have kids, I feel for you. All I can say is that your kids should come first and if you are with someone or dating someone who isn't being a father and role model to their own kids don't count on them being that for yours. That's a battle that I wouldn't advise engaging in. It can get ugly and your kids caught in the middle. Be cautious.
4. Geography
Look past your immediate location. Venture out. Read my post "Girl, go somewhere" for tips on this. Your man might not live on your block or in your neighborhood or even in your state. If you're having trouble dating or finding the right kind of guy for you, widen your net. I've recently come to the realization that maybe my man's name is Jean-Claude or Alejandro...who knows...but I haven't been to Mexico or Europe in recent years but I'm open to the possibilities. Time will tell. It's on my to do list.
Those are just a few things to be mindful of as you enter or re-enter the dating scene. There are tons of other things to be, do and say but I won't go into it here. You need to digest what's been said already and see how your current method of attracting and meeting eligible men measures up. I'm sure there is at least one of these items that needs to be revisited in your life and adjustments made.
Now, I really don't consider myself to be 'too picky' but I will say that there are people that I just don't have time for and that I am reasonably sure will add nothing to my life, therefore I don't bother trying to date them. After the age of 30 you just know what's going to work and what isn't.
If you haven't figured out who YOU are already, then you don't need to be dating anyone if you are currently single. I hope that doesn't sound harsh but some of the relationships I learn about make me cringe. If you are in an unhappy relationship then this might be part of the problem. You may be suffering because you have yet to learn what real happiness feels like. If you don't know that, then how can you recognize it from your partner? Food for thought.
So, I'm encouraging you to be picky but realistic. Find the person who is right for you. It's work though. If you're lazy about it, you will surely not find what you're looking for. Its amazing to me how long us women can take to buy the right outfit, right car, etc but take the first man that comes along and smiles at us.....Girl, Stop it!! That's what makes me tired of you!
It's ok to NOT give someone your phone number just because they asked. It's ok to say no is all I'm saying. Work on you so that when you are ready to jump out there and find 'THE ONE' you will save yourself a lot of wasted time, disappointment and frustration. You might even have fun.
Previous Love and Hip Hop Episodes
So here is where I am with most of the characters on Love and Hip Hop; Atlanta
I'm really upset with Rasheeda's husband. He was so insensitive to his wife after hearing that she was pregnant. I commented on a friend's news feed that there has to be more to the story or why would he have such an extreme response to a delicate situation? I think asking or telling, rather, your wife to have an abortion because of inconvenient timing is ludicrous. I agreed with her when she told him he was acting crazy. I think I would have to separate from him for a while to see if he got his head on straight. I would think that after being in a relationship for 13 years I would deserve a little more than a trip to the abortion clinic, driven by my own husband. How sad is that? I can't help but shake my head. I expected more. Rasheeda is just too beautiful to even have to go through that. Sad.
Traci and Drew. Traci completely lost me when she flipped the script on Drew's business skills after he lost her half of the investment money. And since she didn't say, "you gave him $25K?" She said 50K which makes me inclined to believe that she probably gave up the entire 50 with him giving her back $25K once the business was successful. The other reason I think she fronted the bill was because Drew just wasn't mad enough about losing money whether it was 25k or 50k. If I lose $5...I'M MAD! LOL
But since she entered into the agreement under false pretenses, now she's in the hole. She just wants to be all in Drew's face and he doesn't even fake interest. Would you give someone like that 25k? I wouldn't give someone like that 25 cents. Her sister hit the nail on the head when she brought to light that if Traci wanted to open a store she could do that without Drew, which is true. So, why did she do it? According to her, Drew was successful in his business ventures but everyone else could see that she just wanted to be close to Drew and have a reason to be in face for no apparent reason. Now that he made a worse than rookie business move, his business skills always been shaky. Come on, even I know that money does not change hands until everyone has agreed and signed on the dotted line. That's not shaky business skills, that's non-existent business skills. LOL
Even though she was crying on the show I couldn't help but giggle that the plan backfired. I'm not making fun of her pain I just don't sympathize with women who try to be undercover chasing a man. Your transparent. Just stop. You look foolish to your friends and family and its just no good for your self-esteem when the house of cards comes tumbling down. Traci needs to get focused on something else other than Drew. He's not even that cute LOL
K. Michelle, K. Michelle, K. Michelle...I just don't know what to say. In the beginning I felt like she was kind of real in a ghetto way and now I just think she REAL loud. Her tone and volume immediately turn you off from even wanting to hear what she has to say. And she actually might be saying something someone needs to hear.
Dear K. Michelle,
Lower the volume.
Thanks in advance,
Crusading Black Woman
Did Joseline tell Che Mac to crank her braces?? I'm STILL dying laughing over that one. Joseline is still holding on strong and Stevie j was right, he created that monster.
Stevie, Joseline and Mimi, well you know how I feel about Mimi. I could just do without her. So I will leave her alone for moment, until my next post since I'm kind of behind.
Thus far the show has not disappointed and I hope the drama continues. Real life is just too depressing to be consumed with it 24/7. At least Love and Hip-Hop is good for a laugh or two on Monday nights after a long day of working.
Stay tuned for what's next!!
Leave a comment if you dare!!
I'm really upset with Rasheeda's husband. He was so insensitive to his wife after hearing that she was pregnant. I commented on a friend's news feed that there has to be more to the story or why would he have such an extreme response to a delicate situation? I think asking or telling, rather, your wife to have an abortion because of inconvenient timing is ludicrous. I agreed with her when she told him he was acting crazy. I think I would have to separate from him for a while to see if he got his head on straight. I would think that after being in a relationship for 13 years I would deserve a little more than a trip to the abortion clinic, driven by my own husband. How sad is that? I can't help but shake my head. I expected more. Rasheeda is just too beautiful to even have to go through that. Sad.
Traci and Drew. Traci completely lost me when she flipped the script on Drew's business skills after he lost her half of the investment money. And since she didn't say, "you gave him $25K?" She said 50K which makes me inclined to believe that she probably gave up the entire 50 with him giving her back $25K once the business was successful. The other reason I think she fronted the bill was because Drew just wasn't mad enough about losing money whether it was 25k or 50k. If I lose $5...I'M MAD! LOL
But since she entered into the agreement under false pretenses, now she's in the hole. She just wants to be all in Drew's face and he doesn't even fake interest. Would you give someone like that 25k? I wouldn't give someone like that 25 cents. Her sister hit the nail on the head when she brought to light that if Traci wanted to open a store she could do that without Drew, which is true. So, why did she do it? According to her, Drew was successful in his business ventures but everyone else could see that she just wanted to be close to Drew and have a reason to be in face for no apparent reason. Now that he made a worse than rookie business move, his business skills always been shaky. Come on, even I know that money does not change hands until everyone has agreed and signed on the dotted line. That's not shaky business skills, that's non-existent business skills. LOL
Even though she was crying on the show I couldn't help but giggle that the plan backfired. I'm not making fun of her pain I just don't sympathize with women who try to be undercover chasing a man. Your transparent. Just stop. You look foolish to your friends and family and its just no good for your self-esteem when the house of cards comes tumbling down. Traci needs to get focused on something else other than Drew. He's not even that cute LOL
K. Michelle, K. Michelle, K. Michelle...I just don't know what to say. In the beginning I felt like she was kind of real in a ghetto way and now I just think she REAL loud. Her tone and volume immediately turn you off from even wanting to hear what she has to say. And she actually might be saying something someone needs to hear.
Dear K. Michelle,
Lower the volume.
Thanks in advance,
Crusading Black Woman
Did Joseline tell Che Mac to crank her braces?? I'm STILL dying laughing over that one. Joseline is still holding on strong and Stevie j was right, he created that monster.
Stevie, Joseline and Mimi, well you know how I feel about Mimi. I could just do without her. So I will leave her alone for moment, until my next post since I'm kind of behind.
Thus far the show has not disappointed and I hope the drama continues. Real life is just too depressing to be consumed with it 24/7. At least Love and Hip-Hop is good for a laugh or two on Monday nights after a long day of working.
Stay tuned for what's next!!
Leave a comment if you dare!!
Wednesday, June 26, 2013
GIRL, GO SOMEWHERE! No, LITERALLY, GO SOMEWHERE....
Anyway, I'm starting this post off with this picture for a reason. I just want to share a passion of mine and hope that it catches on in our community. The above picture is a Rose window at Chartre Cathedral located just outside of Paris, France.
When I was 16 years old I was fortunate and blessed enough to be able to travel to Paris and its surrounding cities and walk through this very Cathedral and take my own pictures of the historical architecture and believe me it was such a wonder. Although I was there with friends and we had a lot of fun, it was educational in nature and believe it or not, I've never forgotten all of the people, sights and sounds and history that I was a part of. Traveling is a necessity. Now, most people will probably say, I can't afford it. In some cases, that might be true however if I was to take a look at your current budget I could probably squeeze the money out of your Weave, mani-pedi, everyday latte money. Yes I went there. Don't get me wrong, I love a good weave and I get mani-pedi's too and I love Starbucks, but if I had an opportunity to travel to another country and could get there by temporarily sacrificing any or all of these extras then I wouldn't hesitate. I want this idea to catch on in our community. I want my close friends and family and anyone else who wants to see the world before they die to seriously consider trying to make their travel dreams come true.
What does travel do for you? Well, aside from it being a great, exotic, getaway, you will come away with memories and stories that will last you a lifetime. Stories to tell your kids, stories to tell at work, stories to tell your potential boss at a job interview. Truth is, everyone likes a well-rounded, traveled, individual. I can't tell you how many brows raised when Paris or Rome was thrown into a conversation and I was able to say, yes I traveled there when I was a teen. Just the look of surprise was good enough for me, even if I didn't get the job. I believe what it said to whomever I was talking to is that hey, I'm no dummy and I've been further than the end of the block in my own neighborhood. I don't want to be an "Around the way, girl", I want to be an "Around the WORLD girl"!
So, take an interest in travel. Look on a map, do a google search and learn something new about someplace new. It will open your mind and the next thing you know the Travel Bug will have you in its grips and you won't want it to let go. I see a tour of the Amalfi Coast in my future and believe me I'm saving my pennies...Roll with me, if you think you can handle it...BEWARE, its not for the faint of heart.
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
When you KNOW what you DON'T LIKE, STOP LIKING IT!
This is my saying for those who find themselves reliving the same experiences from one relationship to the next. There's always a "next" because those same things that broke up your last relationship are the same ones that will break up your current one....and the one after, unless you take steps to prevent that.
If you know you didn't like the fact that the last brotha wasn't working, then you aren't going to like the fact that this one isn't either. If you didn't like the fact that your last man didn't have a car and you had to drive everywhere, my hunch is that you'll soon grow tired of playing chauffeur to this one too. So why spend the time? Look deeper. Why do you regularly pick these men that seem to have these issues, and then find yourself frustrated and upset? Is it that you feel lonely? Do you feel incomplete when not in a relationship? What connection, if any, do you feel you really have with this person? All these questions help us to grow in understanding ourselves and how we get to what we really desire.
Being a nurturer, I too have been caught up in trying to do my part in relationship but somehow crossing over the line and assuming roles and responsibilities that should have belonged to my partner. I was able to sustain for a while but then, I got tired. Once I gave up those extra responsibilities the relationship either thrived or it ended or in some cases both. Ultimately, everyone has a role to play. I believe after a certain age boys should try to be men. It happens sooner rather than later for some, and for some it never happens, its the luck of the draw. It happens in due time for every individual. We are superwomen like Alicia Keys said, but we just don't have the ability to speed up time and make our partners realize the importance of, I don't know, having a job and a car.
So, when figure out what you don't like, never settle for it again. If you find yourself in a relationship and realize, uh oh, I'm liking what I don't like, STOP! Go immediately to your best friend and talk it out over drinks and then plan your exit. :) It's not worth getting your blood pressure up.
If you know you didn't like the fact that the last brotha wasn't working, then you aren't going to like the fact that this one isn't either. If you didn't like the fact that your last man didn't have a car and you had to drive everywhere, my hunch is that you'll soon grow tired of playing chauffeur to this one too. So why spend the time? Look deeper. Why do you regularly pick these men that seem to have these issues, and then find yourself frustrated and upset? Is it that you feel lonely? Do you feel incomplete when not in a relationship? What connection, if any, do you feel you really have with this person? All these questions help us to grow in understanding ourselves and how we get to what we really desire.
Being a nurturer, I too have been caught up in trying to do my part in relationship but somehow crossing over the line and assuming roles and responsibilities that should have belonged to my partner. I was able to sustain for a while but then, I got tired. Once I gave up those extra responsibilities the relationship either thrived or it ended or in some cases both. Ultimately, everyone has a role to play. I believe after a certain age boys should try to be men. It happens sooner rather than later for some, and for some it never happens, its the luck of the draw. It happens in due time for every individual. We are superwomen like Alicia Keys said, but we just don't have the ability to speed up time and make our partners realize the importance of, I don't know, having a job and a car.
So, when figure out what you don't like, never settle for it again. If you find yourself in a relationship and realize, uh oh, I'm liking what I don't like, STOP! Go immediately to your best friend and talk it out over drinks and then plan your exit. :) It's not worth getting your blood pressure up.
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
He's Cheating + Your still there = DUMB!!
Ok, I know that was harsh but no woman deserves to be cheated or mistreated and I can't for the life of me figure out why people stay. If you can shed some light on it, hit me at norikajackson@gmail.com. Your responses will be confidential.
I get so upset about this and I don't know why because, to my knowledge, I've never been cheated on. I'm outraged though, at those who cheat so boldly and continue to have someone at home waiting for them. If that someone is you, I encourage you to rethink the situation and make some hard decisions.
I couldn't imagine a scenario where my boyfriend/husband's sidepiece is calling me at work, or he's not coming home until late or sometimes not at all for days at a time, or spending money I KNOW he does NOT have on another chick. I could go on and on with the things I've heard but you get the picture.
My question is, once you have forgiven him and stayed and maybe come to a resolution, what have you gained? You've been humiliated and degraded and stepped on and if you have children...Lord help them.
If you feel your unable to leave then seek the counsel of a professional to identify those barriers and come up with a plan. Please stop getting jerked around. Put your foot down. Make your REQUIREMENTS for staying in the relationship known and if he doesn't try to meet them then KEEP IT MOVING!
Many of us stay in messed up situations because that's all we know. Do yourself a favor and learn something new. I know your just as tired of your cheating man as I am. Do something about it. Now some fellow Christians may be upset at what I'm about to say but its how I feel. I would never counsel someone to stay in a broken relationship, especially where they are in harms way and pray about it. I would tell you to pray about it however I believe that can be done while the couple is separated. This is so both parties can clear their minds and focus on the task at hand IF that's the desire of BOTH parties.
Again ladies you can't fix the relationship by yourself. So while your getting counseling and praying and trying to still be a good wife or girlfriend, your man is still out foolin' around and not taking anything seriously. Keep in mind you can't speed up maturity. And you can't make a man be a man before he's ready. BUT you CAN help the process. How, you say?
By holding yourself in high-esteem and not taking nothin' off nobody!! Men always want what they can't have. Let them know they can't have you unless they meet some requirements. A man will always do his very best to make his woman know that he is in love and if he's not he's slippin'.
NO MAN ON EARTH, is worth sustaining lifelong mental, physical and emotional scars. God would not want that for you, you shouldn't want that for yourself. Put you first and let your man see, 'I love you, but I love me more.'
I get so upset about this and I don't know why because, to my knowledge, I've never been cheated on. I'm outraged though, at those who cheat so boldly and continue to have someone at home waiting for them. If that someone is you, I encourage you to rethink the situation and make some hard decisions.
I couldn't imagine a scenario where my boyfriend/husband's sidepiece is calling me at work, or he's not coming home until late or sometimes not at all for days at a time, or spending money I KNOW he does NOT have on another chick. I could go on and on with the things I've heard but you get the picture.
My question is, once you have forgiven him and stayed and maybe come to a resolution, what have you gained? You've been humiliated and degraded and stepped on and if you have children...Lord help them.
If you feel your unable to leave then seek the counsel of a professional to identify those barriers and come up with a plan. Please stop getting jerked around. Put your foot down. Make your REQUIREMENTS for staying in the relationship known and if he doesn't try to meet them then KEEP IT MOVING!
Many of us stay in messed up situations because that's all we know. Do yourself a favor and learn something new. I know your just as tired of your cheating man as I am. Do something about it. Now some fellow Christians may be upset at what I'm about to say but its how I feel. I would never counsel someone to stay in a broken relationship, especially where they are in harms way and pray about it. I would tell you to pray about it however I believe that can be done while the couple is separated. This is so both parties can clear their minds and focus on the task at hand IF that's the desire of BOTH parties.
Again ladies you can't fix the relationship by yourself. So while your getting counseling and praying and trying to still be a good wife or girlfriend, your man is still out foolin' around and not taking anything seriously. Keep in mind you can't speed up maturity. And you can't make a man be a man before he's ready. BUT you CAN help the process. How, you say?
By holding yourself in high-esteem and not taking nothin' off nobody!! Men always want what they can't have. Let them know they can't have you unless they meet some requirements. A man will always do his very best to make his woman know that he is in love and if he's not he's slippin'.
NO MAN ON EARTH, is worth sustaining lifelong mental, physical and emotional scars. God would not want that for you, you shouldn't want that for yourself. Put you first and let your man see, 'I love you, but I love me more.'
Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta: See what happens when you get a ring? You act Simple!
*Sigh.... Here we go
Erica, Erica, Erica.......WHY???
I was highly disappointed in her behavior on last night's episode. She was actually making progress with Scrappy and she just threw it all away. I'm starting to wonder if she's purposely sabotaging her relationship. I don't know why she would do that, but I'm sure I'll get to the bottom of it. :)
This relates to an earlier post called, 'So you want the ring' and its a perfect example of why men are so reluctant to give their woman a ring in the first place. With her actions she just made it that much harder for the next woman to get where she's trying to go which is to the alter.
I'm watching this episode and I'm really feeling Scrappy trying to man-up and do what he wants to do. Good for him. That's what we want all men to do. Then I see her go ballistic and I'm stunned because I'm like, wait, he just stood up for you like you've been complaining about and you can't even take the win and shut the hell up! Now you wanna FLEX?!?
And what happened? GIMME MY RING BACK!! lmao
Everybody I just CAN'T
A ring does not give you any special powers or privileges. It's simply a man stating, 'I intend to marry you and make you my wife.' It does NOT give you license to act like a jackass. In doing that Erica just gave Mama Dee MORE ammo against her. She NEVER liked Erica and she fell right into her trap. I don't know how Scrap is feeling right now but I don't know how Erica can come back. In my opinion she needs to talk with Scrap one on one and apologize. Then she needs to talk with Mama Dee ONE TIME one on one and let her feelings be known and carry on with her life. Mama Dee is crazy. I've always laughed when people try to reason with the mentally ill. It's like trying to argue with a drunk person, pointless. Erica even said herself that she's been dealing with Mama Dee for a long time. So, did she think her ring gave Mama Dee back her sensibilities?? I don't know but I'm here to tell you that a ring is merely a piece of jewelry. It doesn't perform miracles.
Moving on. Then she jumps up and starts acting like a real hood rat. I don't condone domestic violence in any way shape or form but had scrappy slapped the ____ out of her, I couldn't say anything. I'm glad ALL he did was push her. I would hope she learned to keep her hands to herself. Women kill me jumpin in a ____ face and then callin the police. Now you need help because he done knocked your weave crooked. Girl, stop playin'.
I believe Scrappy was on to something when he said to Erica that it would please her for him to disrespect his mother. I think he was right. That's not cool. A woman should NEVER want her man to disrespect his own mother. If he does then he won't hesitate to disrespect you and YOURS.
All this time she's been saying Scrappy doesn't stand up for her but that's what he's been doing and she's too caught up in her ring and wedding to notice. Now she's given Mama Dee a big gap to squeeze Shay through. Sorry Erica you just gave up this round. This should have been a battle you won to help you win the War. This loss may have cost you the War. All the years you put up with stuff would be for nothing. Sad.
We cry about wanting a man but then refuse to let the one we have BE ONE. Check yourself ladies. Men don't need a second mother.
I'm not gonna spend much time on Mama Dee but a lot of people are blaming her for the incident and I disagree. Like I said, I knew Mama Dee was crazy from jump anytime your a grown*ss woman and you talkin about some 'Prince of South' and the kingdom isn't running well.....OMG she needs meds. So, she just needs to get a life of her own and let Scrappy live his and I believe he's trying to get there his own way and these simple females he got in his life are just plain screwing it up.
I guess that's it for now....I don't have the strength to get on Joseline and her comment about Benzino. I'm still laughing.
Take away - Try letting your man be a man, you might be pleasantly surprised
Erica, Erica, Erica.......WHY???
I was highly disappointed in her behavior on last night's episode. She was actually making progress with Scrappy and she just threw it all away. I'm starting to wonder if she's purposely sabotaging her relationship. I don't know why she would do that, but I'm sure I'll get to the bottom of it. :)
This relates to an earlier post called, 'So you want the ring' and its a perfect example of why men are so reluctant to give their woman a ring in the first place. With her actions she just made it that much harder for the next woman to get where she's trying to go which is to the alter.
I'm watching this episode and I'm really feeling Scrappy trying to man-up and do what he wants to do. Good for him. That's what we want all men to do. Then I see her go ballistic and I'm stunned because I'm like, wait, he just stood up for you like you've been complaining about and you can't even take the win and shut the hell up! Now you wanna FLEX?!?
And what happened? GIMME MY RING BACK!! lmao
Everybody I just CAN'T
A ring does not give you any special powers or privileges. It's simply a man stating, 'I intend to marry you and make you my wife.' It does NOT give you license to act like a jackass. In doing that Erica just gave Mama Dee MORE ammo against her. She NEVER liked Erica and she fell right into her trap. I don't know how Scrap is feeling right now but I don't know how Erica can come back. In my opinion she needs to talk with Scrap one on one and apologize. Then she needs to talk with Mama Dee ONE TIME one on one and let her feelings be known and carry on with her life. Mama Dee is crazy. I've always laughed when people try to reason with the mentally ill. It's like trying to argue with a drunk person, pointless. Erica even said herself that she's been dealing with Mama Dee for a long time. So, did she think her ring gave Mama Dee back her sensibilities?? I don't know but I'm here to tell you that a ring is merely a piece of jewelry. It doesn't perform miracles.
Moving on. Then she jumps up and starts acting like a real hood rat. I don't condone domestic violence in any way shape or form but had scrappy slapped the ____ out of her, I couldn't say anything. I'm glad ALL he did was push her. I would hope she learned to keep her hands to herself. Women kill me jumpin in a ____ face and then callin the police. Now you need help because he done knocked your weave crooked. Girl, stop playin'.
I believe Scrappy was on to something when he said to Erica that it would please her for him to disrespect his mother. I think he was right. That's not cool. A woman should NEVER want her man to disrespect his own mother. If he does then he won't hesitate to disrespect you and YOURS.
All this time she's been saying Scrappy doesn't stand up for her but that's what he's been doing and she's too caught up in her ring and wedding to notice. Now she's given Mama Dee a big gap to squeeze Shay through. Sorry Erica you just gave up this round. This should have been a battle you won to help you win the War. This loss may have cost you the War. All the years you put up with stuff would be for nothing. Sad.
We cry about wanting a man but then refuse to let the one we have BE ONE. Check yourself ladies. Men don't need a second mother.
I'm not gonna spend much time on Mama Dee but a lot of people are blaming her for the incident and I disagree. Like I said, I knew Mama Dee was crazy from jump anytime your a grown*ss woman and you talkin about some 'Prince of South' and the kingdom isn't running well.....OMG she needs meds. So, she just needs to get a life of her own and let Scrappy live his and I believe he's trying to get there his own way and these simple females he got in his life are just plain screwing it up.
I guess that's it for now....I don't have the strength to get on Joseline and her comment about Benzino. I'm still laughing.
Take away - Try letting your man be a man, you might be pleasantly surprised
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